Put Yourself First and Get Your Life Back.
It can easily take control of your life and make you do things you never thought you would.
You'll do anything you can to spend your time gambling.That becomes your only goal.
You'll lie, plan in advance, steal or do anything necessary to get back that rush of adrenaline when you feel the skies the limit, and you've no place to go but up.
Then you lose, and lose, and lose again.
Every time you do, it knocks you down a notch and makes that eventual feeling of despair an unwelcome guest.
However, that feeling always comes back, no matter how bad you feel, no matter how many times you promise never to do it again, you always end up going back.
It's not winning money you are addicted to.
It's the rush of adrenaline.Watch and listen to Video
But that is only temporary.
Even when you win and you take the time to think about all you've lost, that feeling of despair comes back.
It's time to put an end to this vicious cycle.
You can do it, and you will succeed if you put the following steps in motion.
1. Admit to yourself, family, friends and loved ones about your problem.
The first thing to do is to go to all your friends, family and other loved ones, and admit to your problem.
You've likely lied to these people ever since your problem started.
You might have actually stolen from some of them, or borrowed money and took too long to pay it back.
It's time to mend these fences and admit to your mistake.
Getting this off your chest and talking about it with the ones you trust and love is the first step in getting past this issue.
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2. Find a support group.
There are plenty of avenues to pursue when it comes to needing an outlet for your frustration.
You can join a support group, or go it alone with a counselor.
However, whatever you do, just make sure you put yourself first and set aside the time to sit down once or twice a week to get things off your chest.
To make it easier on those around you, make sure to speak with someone who'll have no preconceived notions, and won't sit in judgment.
Make sure it's someone you don't know who will help you find a solution, and not remind you of the costs of your mistakes.
3. Eliminate all access to cash of any kind.
This is an essential step.
You must realize that your inability to control your urges is directly attributed to your access to available cash and credit.
Take all your credit cards and cut them up.
Do this in front of someone to make sure all of them are destroyed.
You'll still be paying these cards down, but you won't have the ability to withdraw any money from them.Book in now or Contact Us
Or give your card to your wife or someone special .
If you don't have someone to hold it for you, then destroy it.
At the beginning of each week, have this person come with you to withdraw the money you'll need for the remainder of the week.
Make sure to account for gas or any other item you'll need.
This money will be yours to spend as you wish. If you succumb and gamble, then you'll limit your losses and won't make a bad situation worse.
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If you have internet banking, provide them with access to your information online.
The deterrent will be your concern of being found out.
If you think of gambling again, you'll be reminded that someone will be watching your banking transactions.
You must be cognisant that if you make a mistake and slip, you'll likely have to explain yourself.
Having to explain you've done it again, can be very uncomfortable.
4. Set up a weekly schedule of when you'll be home and what you'll be doing.
Your biggest issue is your lack of control over your gambling problem.
Giving up this control won't be easy, but it's absolutely necessary. While you can't control your urges, you have been in control of your access to cash.
Afterstep 3, this will no longer be the case. Withstep 4, you'll take it a step further by limiting your available free time.
The two biggest factors contributing to your gambling is your free time and available cash.
Once you've eliminated your access to money, you'll then have to eliminate your free time. This doesn't imply that you live in a box or under house arrest.
What it does mean is that you have a set time when you'll be coming home.
5. Find a new outlet for your habit.
You'll now devote this compulsion of yours to something new. You are going to look within yourself to find something to take the place of your gambling habit.
This doesn't mean you find a new and equally dangerous one, but it does mean that you find something that you can devote your time to.
According to some experts, it usually takes three weeks or 21 days to end a bad habit. However, this is unlike any bad habit you've ever developed before, so you'll need more time to get this out of your system.
What about bowling, reading, writing, fishing, golfing, touch football or anything else where your energies could be put to better use?
Find that activity that will occupy your time. It's never easy to admit you have a problem. It takes a lot of courage to admit you've lost control and need help.
However, you can get past this and you will. It's not going to be easy, but as time passes, you'll begin to appreciate everything you once forgot.
Your new habit will be spending time with family, friends and loved ones. You'll no longer be burdened by the allure of gambling, and you will regain your independence.